Moms and Dads who are raising boys….
PLEASE teach your son how to be a husband for his future wife. It might not seem important now, but it will be so very important as days go by. I have witnessed an abundance of immature boys growing up to marry girls by whom they expect to be cared for just like their mommies cared for them when they were children.
I just don’t get it! This is not rocket science and it is not asking too much…really, it’s not. It is also not in line with biblical principles of rearing godly children. Every child should assume a place of responsibility in their home compatible with their age of understanding, abilities, etc.
What seems to happen is that mommy and/or daddy don’t teach their male child how to be a responsible man by having them participate in the household. How to have integrity or ethics as a man. Instead, many of these boys learn their mommas will take care of “whatever” they leave lying about or undone. As years go by, these bad habits will parlay themselves into a very unhappy wife. Not pretty.
Even in the most conservative of Christian circles, this should NOT be acceptable. Even “if” your son marries a girl with excellent homemaking skills, he should still know how to fix a grilled cheese sandwich and cup of soup. Your son should know how to load and unload a dishwasher, know his way around a vacuum cleaner and washer/dryer. There will come a time when mommy is the one sick and daddy will need to step up.
With so many wives working outside the home, it just chaps my hide to see these grown men gathered around their video games, focused on blowing something up, while their children are running around the house like wild animals, no rules, no consequences, no respect for their own belongings. Toddlers making their own meals and leaving dishes everywhere. Complete chaos. Children need to be disciplined and they need to know what is expected of them.
While sons are most likely around their mommas for the majority of their day, Daddies must reinforce godly principles with their sons. Daddies need to guard their own hearts towards their wives. Your son is watching and will adopt the same attitude towards his wife. So girls…you wanna a quick rule-of-thumb indicator? Observe your potential in-laws and how they interact because that might be the only relationship reference your fiancé knows.
I am begging you Moms/Dads with sons….do not give a free pass to them.